There is NOTHING wrong with you. 

If you’re like most people, you just want to feel accepted, acknowledged and like you’re good enough as you are. 

Yet so much in our world tells us otherwise … that we’re wrong, broken, not “normal” (whatever the hell that is) and that we’re supposed to be some other way.

So we become quiet about who we really are and what we really want sexually.

We silence our uniqueness because we’re scared of being judged and rejected.

And we don’t feel confident about who we are.

I was the same ...

I felt like I was wrong in terms of my sexual fantasies and desires.

I also felt like I was wrong as who I was in general, so I tried to be something and someone more acceptable, like I was “supposed” to be or like I “should” be. 

I spent a long time on a journey of discovery and growth to be able to shift that and confidently express myself … a long journey of coming to know that there’s nothing wrong with me. 

And there’s nothing wrong with you either.

I want to support you in knowing that deep in your core. To do that, I’ll be creating posts and podcast episodes about:

• The stuff out there in the world that tells you there’s something wrong with you.

• Discovering who you really are and expressing that.

• And boosting your sexual confidence.

So you can create the sex life you really want. 

My vision for the world is free, equitable, authentic sexual expression and the ripple effect that comes from connection, emotional intelligence and healthy communication in relationships.

And my mission is all about supporting you in creating these things … and doing this myself as well.

I’ve been a certified life and mindset coach for a long time.

I have always focused on supporting people to move through shame and fear and be who they authentically are, but it was in the context of online business and sales before.

I did a lot of business-related coaching as well as the mindset stuff and it just wasn’t where my heart was. 

I was part of a leadership training a couple of years ago, and as my partner in an activity was yelling, “What do you want” over and over to me, I got back in touch with what was true to my heart … a dream I had buried a long time ago.

Since then, I’ve added a sex coach and a kink informed certification to the mix.

And now I get to focus on what I really want to do.

One reason why it’s so important to me is that what I experienced in my life as I briefly shared earlier, and what I’ve heard so often from people recently, is that who we are and what we want is wrong.

Who we really are and what we truly desire becomes silenced in shame, kept quiet inside ourselves and not expressed outwardly (except maybe in secret), which is really the goal of shame.

We suffer in silence, go through the motions of what we think is expected of us, or what’s perceived as “normal,” and we don’t express who we really are. In fact, we often suppress it. 

That’s what I did. Who I was, became silenced and buried under shame, masks and the fear of what I thought other people might think.

Until I moved through the shame, started communicating and expressing my authenticity and embraced the fact that I’m exactly perfect just as I am.

This is what I want for you, too, in your own unique way so you can be in your power, freely and authentically expressing who you are sexually, without shame. 

There are three key foundations to what I do:

1. Creating a sex life you really want isn’t about surface, random solutions that aren’t really solutions.

2. It’s about discovering and expressing who you uniquely are and this is about sexual confidence. Sexual confidence is about knowing who you are sexually, feeling good about it and knowing how to communicate and express it.

3. And mindset is key. It’s about discovering and shifting all the things that get in the way of being your unique self … all that stuff from out there in the world that tells you you’re wrong or broken.

I’ll share more about these foundations in later posts and I’m so excited about that! 

For now, let me know one question or struggle you have when it comes to creating the sex life you really want. I may address it in a future post (anonymously of course).

Share your question or struggle here.